In the movie, there is a quote: “I slowly came to understand that the so-called parent-child relationship only means that your fate with him is to watch his figure gradually fade away in this life. You stand on one end of the road, watching him disappear around the bend, and he silently tells you with his back: no need to chase.”

When we were young, we were the support for our children, afraid they wouldn’t have enough to eat or wear. But as we grow older, our children become our support and concern.

As people age, the greatest help for children is letting go, solitude is also a kind of enjoyment.

60-year-old Mr. Liu

Mr. Liu is 60 years old this year, with a son and a daughter. Due to work, his children often cannot be by his side. Even though his children have families and careers, 60-year-old Mr. Liu still worries about their lives every day.

Calling his children every day is a must, never missed in the morning, afternoon, or evening.

Initially, he had frequent contact with his children, but as their work became busier, Mr. Liu became more disappointed.

I remember one Chinese New Year, Mr. Liu called his children early.

The first thing he said was, “Kids, this year I bought your favorite fish and made chicken soup. Come home early.” Before Mr. Liu finished, the voice from the other end of the phone said, “Dad, can you stop calling every day? I’m very busy, I don’t have time to listen to these things.”

After that, the call was hung up.

After that call, Mr. Liu never called his children again. Even during festivals, he could only hope for his children’s return in his heart.

Seeing Mr. Liu’s disappointment, his spouse realized it. One day, while cooking in the kitchen, his spouse said to him, “Children are grown now, they have their own families and careers. As parents, we can see that they are doing well. They won’t always be by our side. Letting them go and letting them make their own way is sometimes a kind of fulfillment. At our age, there’s not much we can worry about. Not causing them trouble is already good enough.”

After hearing these words from his spouse, Mr. Liu didn’t reply, but silently nodded.

In real life, there are many elderly people like Mr. Liu. After children grow up and have their own families and careers, the time spent with parents decreases.

At any moment, parents will always worry about their children. But sometimes, letting go appropriately is the best fulfillment for children.

On a certain program, when discussing the way of educating his daughter, Huang Lei said, “I never treated her as a child. She is a thoughtful person with her own secrets, thoughts, and life. She doesn’t belong to me, we are independent individuals, and I don’t impose my will on her. We treat each other like friends.”

Huang Lei fully respects his child in education, doesn’t limit her development, and learns to let go.

Sometimes, letting go appropriately is not harmful to children but an encouragement.

Getting more ear piercings, dyeing hair, or putting on makeup, as long as the child likes it, Huang Lei never interferes more. It is precisely because of this “open” way of education that his child has become excellent.

In the eyes of parents, children are always the apple of their eyes. All parents hope for their children to excel.

But true education for children is not about restrictions but letting go.

Children are independent individuals, everything is independent, so our attitude towards them should also be open, not limiting their growth.

Children are like small saplings. When they are young, parents play the role of gardeners. As children grow up, parents also need to learn to let go and let them grow freely.

Sometimes, as children grow up, we may feel that the distance between us is increasing.

Educational issues are also a headache for parents.

But has the child really changed their attitude towards us? Not really.

High emotional intelligence parents are more like friends with their children, rather than treating them from a commanding standpoint.

Most of the educational issues with children come from the inability of parents and children to communicate correctly.

Many parents are helpless with their children’s education issues, always thinking about not letting go, even monitoring their children 24 hours a day.

But this state will only make children more oppressed and make the distance between parents and children even greater.

Facing children, we must learn to let go, give them time and space to grow.

Learning to let go is the best fulfillment for children.

As people reach a certain age, they also need to learn to let go.

Stop adding unnecessary worries to yourself.

As people age, the greatest help for children is letting go, solitude is also another kind of enjoyment.