In real life, we meet all sorts of people, and some of them earn our trust, making our relationships very close. When we encounter various things in life, we always hope to share them with that person first.

However, as the saying goes, “Don’t have a heart that plots against others, but have a heart that guards against others.” Not everyone is worthy of our trust, and sometimes, even with someone very close to us, there are three “secrets” that we shouldn’t share, or we’ll suffer the consequences.

Conflicts Between Husband and Wife

Not long ago, my friend Emily wrote to me:

I have a very close friend, and we’ve been friends since childhood. I trust her with everything, and I always want to share my thoughts with her first.

Later, we both graduated and went to different cities to pursue our careers, but our friendship remained unchanged.

Two years ago, I got married, and although she couldn’t attend my wedding, she sent me a congratulatory gift, which I cherished. Our friendship was still strong.

Before marriage, my relationship with my husband was great, but after marriage, he became a different person, which made me unhappy. Whenever I had conflicts with my husband, I would always turn to my friend for advice.

At first, she would patiently advise me, but later, she became less interested in listening to my problems.

Recently, I received a text from her: “Emily, I’m busy with work and don’t have time to deal with your family issues. Can you please not share your problems with me all the time? I’m really tired of it.”

To be honest, I felt disappointed when I read the message, but I also understood her.

After that, our conversations became less frequent, and I felt like we could never go back to the way things were before.

It’s inevitable that everyone has close friends in their daily lives.

Sometimes, when we encounter unhappy events in life, we also hope to find someone to confide in.

As the saying goes, “Don’t air your dirty laundry in public.” Not everything can be shared with outsiders.

Conflicts between husband and wife should be resolved internally. Remember, don’t share them with others, because no one can be your savior. If you can’t even handle this, how can you handle family conflicts?

Mistakes at Work

Each of us will make mistakes when facing work, and sometimes, we can’t share these mistakes with others because we don’t know how others will react.

When we encounter mistakes at work, the only thing we can do is improve our skills. Only then can we avoid being laughed at. When we share our mistakes, we’ll only bring trouble to ourselves. If the news spreads to our boss, we might even get fired.

Family Conflicts

As the saying goes, “A married daughter is like spilled water.” This means that once a girl gets married, she should focus less on her family of origin. When there are conflicts in the family, don’t bring them to your husband’s family.

Because your mother-in-law is not your mother, if you bring too many family conflicts to your husband’s family, you won’t receive respect.

Your family of origin is your foundation, and harmony in your family of origin can earn you more respect from your husband’s family. When there are conflicts in the family, everyone should work together to resolve them quietly, without making a big deal out of it.

As a daughter-in-law, when you enter your husband’s family, you should also maintain a harmonious relationship with your mother-in-law and be a wise woman, which can bring you more happiness.

As the saying goes, “Harmony in the family brings prosperity.” When you encounter family conflicts, the most important thing is to find a solution, not to share your pain with others.

In real life, each of us has our own secrets and closest friends, but not everything can be shared with others. Don’t share conflicts between husband and wife, and your marriage will be happier. Don’t share mistakes at work, and your career will be smoother. Don’t share family conflicts, and you’ll have more confidence in your husband’s family.

As humans, we need to learn to control our mouths and maintain a proper distance with others. Only then can our relationships become more harmonious.

Not everyone deserves our trust, and when we learn to control our mouths and keep secrets, our lives will become better.

When you fully trust others, you can’t guarantee that they will do the same for you. So, in daily life, we should learn to keep secrets and not share everything with others.

Everyone will encounter difficulties in life, so when we face these things, we should use a calm heart to deal with them.