In life, one of the most chilling things is emotional instability, especially when it comes to relationships, which can lead to extreme anxiety. The key to inner peace is stable emotions. Whether it’s romantic, family, or friendship turmoil, it can make us feel restless, lose stability, and even our ability to be happy.
When someone is caught in anxiety, no matter how hard they try, they can’t find the stability they seek. They lose control of their emotions, struggle to find happiness, and may resort to escapism through smoking, drinking, sleeping pills, or even coffee.
As they spiral into delusions, they become more agitated, convinced of their righteousness but puzzled as to why they can’t attain the affection they desire. Unable to control their inner turmoil, they may lash out at others, behaving aggressively or even resorting to insults and harm.
Once consumed by anxiety, they feel helpless, plunging into a terrifying hysteria with nowhere to escape, facing various anxieties. They become frantic, unsure how to cope. When attempts to change fail repeatedly, fear and despair set in.
People with anxiety disorders often appear restless, rarely able to stay still in one place.
They move like a whirlwind, their anxiety palpable to those around them. Feeling an urgent need to address many things, yet unable to control their mindset, they strive to display strength in public and avoid showing vulnerability to others.
So, what should one do when anxiety strikes?
Learn to Listen to Others’ Concerns
In interactions, whether with friends or romantic partners, anxious individuals often lack patience to listen and appear frantic and eager. They speak rapidly, sometimes twisting others’ words before responding.
To alleviate anxiety, start by listening to others’ troubles. When you focus on understanding their lives and pains, their emotional expressions can influence your thinking, prompting reflection on your relationship and feelings.
Through your partner’s words, you may discover shortcomings in the relationship, leading to introspection and a shift in thinking, fostering acceptance, trust, and dependence.
Master Your Emotions
Reflect on your past anxious and impulsive behaviors. Identify reactions and triggers during emotional outbursts and record them.
In daily life, actively avoid these triggers, gain control over your physiological sensations and emotional responses, practice self-regulation daily, observe your emotional fluctuations closely, and enhance your self-control to avoid harming those around you.
Accept Life’s Pain and Stop Avoiding It
Life is not always smooth sailing. Just as there are flowers and applause, there are also thorns and sweat. Everyone’s journey is full of twists and turns, much like an ECG, signifying a meaningful life. Embrace sadness and pain as part of life, not just happiness. By accepting rather than rejecting them, you’ll reduce anxiety.
Accept Life’s Lack of Options
In life, we encounter many disappointments, especially in relationships. When a loved one decides to leave, many find it hard to accept, leading to psychological turmoil, distorted thoughts, and an inability to calm down.
These individuals may doubt themselves continuously, affecting future relationships. They lose trust in others due to past betrayals, reluctant to believe in anyone again.
Don’t let one failure force you to accept things you didn’t choose and prevent you from seeing the world’s beauty, opting to escape instead.
By accepting life’s lack of choices, you’ll understand that everything has its own fate, whether it’s love, family, or other matters. Once you cultivate inner peace, your life won’t be as anxious.
By following these four steps, mastering emotional control, practicing continuously, and giving yourself positive reinforcement, you can calm down. Understand that some things are beyond your control and don’t blame yourself excessively, avoiding endless pain and confusion.