Sometimes we like to praise others by calling them sensible, but little do we know that being sensible can sometimes be cruel for some people. That’s because overly sensible people always smile in front of others but suffer in silence behind their backs.
Sensible people care about others’ feelings, even if it means sacrificing their own. They appear strong and never shed a tear. They take care of others everywhere but often find themselves in tears.
Being sensible is good, but those who are overly sensible often feel wronged because they, too, need care, understanding, protection, and love.
Overly sensible individuals make others feel sorry for them. When they see a toy they’ve longed for in a store but are told it’s too expensive, they obediently walk away without a fuss.
At gatherings with friends, they always compromise to make everyone happy, never arriving late or leaving early to avoid hurting anyone’s feelings.
After winning a prize, when other children demand gifts as rewards, they stay silent on the sidelines, just because their parents said, “Keep it up.”
Overly sensible children can be pitiful at times because they always prioritize others’ thoughts and feelings, neglecting their own.
It’s said that a crying child gets candy, but those who don’t cry often endure silent suffering.
When a younger sibling arrives, they are always reminded to be understanding and give in, which makes them stay silent even when facing blame and questioning from their parents.
In front of relatives making decisions about their marriage, they simply comply due to their sensibility.
You see, overly sensible individuals live in others’ worlds because they fail to defend their rights or express their needs, leading to a repressed life. Deep down, they don’t like themselves this way but conform due to the “sensible” label.
On the flip side, overly sensible people take on too much pressure, often blaming themselves when things go wrong. Despite what others say, these individuals deserve love just like anyone else.
In a situation in our town, a woman didn’t want her husband to bear the burden of a grand wedding, so she didn’t ask for a dowry. However, after marriage, her husband and in-laws mistreated her, treating her like a servant, even during her pregnancy.
Even her once loving husband started to despise her, even resorting to physical violence. She couldn’t forget his words, “I wouldn’t want a woman like you even if you paid me.”
She regrets marrying him out of pity, going against the advice of family and friends. Now she regrets her decision.
Being overly sensible in relationships doesn’t always lead to affection; sometimes, it results in pain.
Overly sensible people smile in public but suffer in private: “Who knows my hardships?” In reality, you consider others at every turn, but how many truly appreciate your sensibility?
Life is tough for everyone. If you prioritize others too much and undervalue yourself, you’re likely to get hurt.
Because you fail to protect yourself and put others first, people start taking you for granted, diminishing the respect you deserve.
Taking on too much burdens oneself, leading to smiling in public and crying alone later, is not a recipe for happiness.
Overly sensible individuals don’t feel happy; instead, they live in others’ worlds, neglecting their own spiritual world.
Therefore, it’s best not to be overly sensible in life. Holding on for too long can lead to unhappiness. Learn to enjoy life, be carefree, and consider yourself without being selfish.
Pleasing oneself, pursuing what you like, and letting go of what you don’t are crucial. Don’t force yourself into unnecessary situations. Being true to yourself is what matters most.