After a woman starts working, she should send money home. While parents are still relatively young, show your thoughtfulness and let them enjoy a few happy years.
When they get older, they might not need as much money with declining health. So, while you’re young, quickly show filial piety to your parents.
Being Filial is Good, But Does the Husband Agree?
There can be disputes in the family about giving money to parents. After all, when sending money home, it’s essential to inform your husband. There should be no secrets in a relationship. Even if your pocket money is enough, you should still communicate with your husband. Unless both of you go Dutch.
Maggie works for a company and, combined with her husband’s income, can manage their monthly expenses. Maggie wants to send some living expenses home, a thousand dollars per month.
When her husband heard this, he frowned, “What? A thousand dollars? Our combined income is less than eight thousand a month. After rent, kids’ expenses, daily costs, how can we afford to send this much money home?”
“A thousand a month, is it too much?” Maggie felt that a thousand dollars was already too little. Her parents worked hard to raise her, and now that she has a stable job, at her parents’ age of over fifty, a thousand dollars a month isn’t even enough for groceries.
But the problem is, the husband doesn’t agree, thinking Maggie is giving too much.
Men Have Their Reasons Too
During dinner, Maggie and her husband continued to argue. “My colleagues send home several thousand dollars every month, and my parents are getting older. I’m their only daughter,” Maggie said, feeling a bit sad.
“That won’t work either. We barely have enough money each month, and we plan to save up to buy a house in the future. There are other expenses too. There’s no extra money at home; you should give your parents less.”
Men have to bear the pressure of life. Besides earning money every day and enjoying family life at home, men have other dreams, like buying a house for the family, achieving success in their career in middle age, having enough capital, and maintaining dignity in front of friends and colleagues.
Money is something men always long for, something they always have to strive for.
How Women Should Handle It
Maggie started communicating with her husband, sharing her deep affection for her parents. From her childhood, how her mother worked hard to raise her, to supporting her education and knitting sweaters for her late at night. Her father didn’t earn much and often did odd jobs in town after work.
Affection is the most precious asset. “The sweetest words your lips could utter are ‘mother,’ the most beautiful calling is ‘mom’,” as Khalil Gibran said.
Everyone has their own experience of affection. Though our upbringings may differ, deep emotions come from the same place, from flesh and blood, evoking the most resonance.
Seeing her husband relax a bit, Maggie kept serving him food. While eating, she said, “Our parents are family, and eventually, we’ll have to take care of them in their old age. Sending them a little extra each month is like giving them an early living allowance.”
Friendly Communication Can Work Wonders
Soon, Maggie managed to convince her husband. He felt that as a man, he shouldn’t make it difficult for his wife to be filial. Although he didn’t agree immediately, his demeanor had softened.
In the end, they agreed to wait for a while, give less to their parents each month, stabilize their lives, save some capital, and then give more to their parents.
“Not just a thousand, in the future, even several thousand will be fine.” The husband’s final words deeply moved Maggie, and they happily finished their meal.
In a family, even with intimacy, it’s essential to communicate politely. Your attitude can melt someone else’s perspective, and sometimes, a change in viewpoint is just a thought away.
In a family, a woman who understands how to get along and express emotions skillfully can gain a position and not be underestimated by her husband. If a woman also has charm and the ability to create family happiness, she can firmly grasp a man’s heart, making him willing to sacrifice for the family.
Being happy in life is also a form of filial piety.
“Only by being filial to your parents can you dispel worries.”
Filial piety brings happiness. Giving money to the family brings joy, and living well brings another kind of happiness.
In the nourishment of love, women can live harmoniously with their husbands and have time to visit their parents glowing with beauty, a simple form of filial piety.
How much money should you give your family each month? How do you talk to your husband about it appropriately? Behind financial filial piety, it’s crucial to also stay in touch with your parents regularly.
Parents usually need simple filial piety. As a working woman after marriage, you always hope to earn more, providing greater financial support to your parents.
At this point, the husband’s role becomes interesting. As they say, love your house, love the crow perched on it; your wife’s parents are also your parents. Faced with a woman’s desires, how should the husband choose?
Behind a happy life, there are always various pressures to bear. For ordinary working-class people, there isn’t much money left from the basic monthly salary. Whenever there’s extra cash, don’t forget to filially support your parents.