Some time ago, I heard a relationship expert say:

“For many years, I have fed and fattened many ungrateful people with my kindness, only to be treated as a real fool in the end.”

Many times when you are good to someone, they will be good to you, and you will feel warmth, you will feel that goodness begets goodness.

Sometimes when you are good to someone, they may not necessarily be good to you. Your kindness not only does not bring about their kindness, but also lets them treat you as a fool.

Although people should treat everyone fairly, sometimes, some people are not worthy of your kindness.

Your kindness, sometimes, cannot warm up a cold heart, and can only make your own heart cold.

So, people should work with kind people more. For those who treat you especially well but treat you as a fool, you must choose to stay away from them.

Stay Away from Those Who Take Advantage

You must stay away from those who take advantage in life.

A dozen years ago, Uncle borrowed a lot of money from our family. When we first lent it, we had already intended to give it to them.

But they thought we still wanted to ask for money from them, so they avoided us.

At that moment, our family was very disappointed, not because their family valued money so much, but because they valued money more than the affection between us.

Perhaps at that time, they thought they didn’t need us anymore, so they were very cold to us.

However, things took an unexpected turn. Later, their child broke their arm, and at this time they came to borrow money from us again.

We set aside our previous complaints and gave them the money without hesitation.

After this incident, they gradually distanced themselves from us.

Everyone thought that their family would live happily in the future, and they would no longer need help from others.

But unexpectedly, last year, Aunt was diagnosed with heart disease and needed a lot of money for treatment. At this time, they came to our house to borrow money again.

My mom often tells me this sentence:

“A person must have a bottom line, things should not go beyond three times.”

A person who takes advantage without love and always wants more, thinks that every time you help them, it is a matter of course, and then disregards you after using you. If it were not for family relationships, such a person would have long been shut out of our family.

So when Aunt had surgery, our family helped them, but my mom said this was the last time.

One must stay away from those who take advantage, especially those who lack love. After you help them, you will not receive gratitude, but rather cold eyes.

These cold eyes make you feel desolate, and then you won’t know how to help others in the future, or whether you should trust others again.

Those who take advantage and lack gratitude only treat you as a fool.

Stay Away from People Who Don’t Give You Face in Public

Some people seem to be very good to you on the surface, but they never give you face in public.

A friend once told me:

“My good friend is usually very good to me, but today at a trade show, because I didn’t know a certain embroidery, she started criticizing me. After criticizing me, she then explained the principle of embroidery in front of everyone. I felt very embarrassed today.”

Some people seem to treat you as a friend on the surface, but in fact, they treat you as a fool.

In public, one must know how to give you face. Only people who respect you know how to give you face and consider you a person of character and charm.

Someone who, in public, sees that you don’t know something and uses it to show off their own knowledge is only trying to boost their own ego using you.

People need face, especially in public. Someone who knows how to show off in public but does not give you face does not respect you.

In real life, we often see this phenomenon: it seems that one person treats another person very well, treats the other person as a good friend, but as soon as there are more people around, they ignore the other person. Sometimes they criticize the other person’s clothes and words in public, making the other person embarrassed.

Undoubtedly, such a person only treats you as a fool, just to use you to show off.

Such people will eventually leave you, so you might as well stay away from them.

Stay Away from Those Who Always Ask for Help but Never Help You

In society, there are often people like this:

Always asking you for help, so you often help this person. But when you encounter something and need their help, even though it would be easy for them to help, they won’t.

Many people always want your help when they have relationship problems, but when you encounter difficulties, they are the first to kick you when you’re down.

Goodness begets goodness. If a person thinks you can help them unconditionally, but can leave you at any time when you encounter difficulties, undoubtedly, this person treats you as a fool.

They think you are a person without judgment, even if others treat you badly, you will still treat others well. In their minds, to put it nicely, you are a kind person, to put it bluntly, you are a fool.

Although when you help someone, it is not to expect others to help you in the future, so you help them.

But if you help someone, and when you encounter difficulties, this person does not come back to help you, but makes you even more distressed.

Stay away from such people!

In adulthood, the most successful way of living is to know how to screen your network. Some people are worth deep connections, but some people must be kept at a distance.

Although having more friends means more paths, some people by your side are better off not being there.