A country is like a big family, and this big family is made up of many small families. Without small families, the big family wouldn’t exist.
Every member of the family is crucial, and they work together to make the family thrive. If something happens to the family, all members will suffer together.
Years ago, our whole family sat down to eat together, and all our relatives came.
When we ate together, we also drank and chatted deeply. My brother-in-law said something that stuck with me:
“It’s all for a living!”
It’s all for a living, and it’s all for this family. If the family isn’t doing well, life won’t be good either.
No one wants their family to fail, and no one wants their family to go downhill.
But sometimes we need to avoid these things from happening, and we need to prepare. We need to know that when problems arise in the family, we must solve them promptly.
The famous psychologist Maslow said:
“Some things can be completely avoided, but we don’t.”
Sometimes, when things happen, there are signs beforehand. We need to learn to avoid them when we see these signs.
These signs aren’t superstition; they’re like the prelude to an event. When you notice these signs, you need to know what to do next.
Don’t be overconfident in your family; that’s not good for the family.
The biggest failure of a family is to let these two things happen, and it’s doomed to go downhill.
Frequent Quarrels
We need to avoid frequent quarrels in the family.
As the saying goes:
“Harmony brings wealth.”
When we face problems, we need to prioritize harmony because harmony breeds wealth.
Communication is crucial in the family, and it’s natural to have some disputes. But we need to learn to control our temper.
I remember when I was very young, my dad was like that:
At that time, I was still in kindergarten. I remember my dad broke his leg and couldn’t work, so he was very anxious. When he got home, he started yelling at my mom and me.
He even used his cane to hit my mom, leaving her covered in bruises. Later, he almost broke my butt.
I don’t remember many things from that time, but this incident has stuck with me as a lifelong pain.
After that, my dad continued to fight with my mom, and our family started to fall apart. Our family’s business failed, and we lost everything.
Although I was young, I now understand:
Because the family wasn’t harmonious, the family members didn’t work together. Our business needed the cooperation of family members, and the workers wouldn’t work for us.
When doing business, we need the cooperation of family members, and only then can our business thrive.
Any endeavor requires the joint effort of family members. When you’re not doing well, don’t think about using your temper to pressure your family members. Instead, learn to communicate well.
After that, my mom lost her spirit, and she even thought about leaving my dad. At that time, our family was in shambles.
Dad was also devastated, and our family was on the verge of collapse.
As the head of the family, you must maintain peace in the family. A woman can be with you through thick and thin, but she can’t take your physical and emotional abuse.
The thing that can kill people the most is endless quarrels and beatings. One day, when everyone leaves you, your family will be like scattered sand, and you’ll regret not reflecting on your actions.
When quarrels arise in the family, you must learn to control the situation and not let it escalate.
Everything is done by people, and if there’s no one in the family, how can you do anything? Maybe in the end, you’ll lose your family and harm others, as well as yourself.
Family Members Are Lazy and Like to Eat
My uncle’s family members are lazy and like to eat. Before, my uncle’s nephew had an accident outside, and someone compensated him with tens of thousands of dollars.
Because my uncle’s family members are lazy and like to eat, they borrowed the money when they heard about the compensation. My uncle and aunt took the money, and after they spent it all, they didn’t return it to the lender.
Try to imagine: my aunt’s nephew had an accident, and the money was for his life. However, my aunt didn’t bat an eye and borrowed the money.
Later, when my aunt got sick, they didn’t have the money to pay for her treatment. Her brother knew she was sick but didn’t help because he remembered that my aunt’s family had spent the compensation money.
After that, my aunt had her surgery, and everyone lent them money.
After the surgery, the government reimbursed a lot of the expenses, and my aunt’s family got back a lot of money. However, they didn’t return the borrowed money and instead continued to spend it.
Now, the money is all gone, and the people who lent them money are coming to collect.
In life, never keep taking advantage of others. If you don’t know how to work hard, you’ll find that your family is always going downhill.
Perhaps in your eyes, you’ve taken advantage of others, but the more you take advantage, the lazier you become.
Anything requires effort, and only through hard work will you have a long-term plan.
The biggest failure of a family is to let these two things happen. When you see the signs, you must learn to make a strong comeback.
Every family should thrive, and only then can each family member have the life they want.
You need to learn to strive and also learn to live in harmony with your family. As the saying goes, “Harmony breeds wealth,” and only through effort will you achieve more.