The so-called “to be independent at the age of thirty” suggests that one should have achieved something by the time they turn thirty.

But I think achievement here doesn’t just refer to wealth, status, and family, but also includes one’s own thoughts.

When we were young, we could live carefree, speak freely, and live as we pleased.

When we were young and frivolous, we could boldly pursue our dreams, even if those dreams seemed unattainable.

Back then, we used to say, “As long as there’s a dream in your heart, there’s hope for the future.”

But our actions and thoughts can’t just stay in our youthful days, and we can’t just think of ourselves, naively believing that everything in the world is beautiful.

Once you’re over 30, even if your mindset is still youthful, you must mature in your thinking.

Our immaturity when we were young could be seen as maintaining innocence. Even if you were naive and simple, no one would mock or look down on you because that was the image suitable for your age at the time.

But if you’re still immature in your thinking at the age of 30, displaying childish behavior and saying immature things, you will definitely be looked down upon.

Even if others don’t say it, their eyes and expressions will mock you and tarnish your image.

So, after turning 30, these are the things you must understand.

Instead of humbly loving others, it’s better to love yourself well

When we were young, we were willing to give everything for love, even our lives, and we used to say, “Life is precious, but love is even more valuable.”

In love, if giving can lead to receiving, then that’s fortunate. Such sacrifices can lead to happiness in the latter part of life, which is worth it.

But for some, no matter how much love and effort they put in, they still fail to move the other person’s heart.

Just because they love so much, even if the other person doesn’t love them, they can’t bear to give up on the relationship, always hoping that by continuing to give, one day the other person will turn around and maybe fall in love with them.

It’s this kind of thinking that makes some people become increasingly humble in love, losing confidence, and always feeling that if they leave this relationship, they will never meet someone who loves them in the same way again.

But you should know that love isn’t based on being moved, and the more you give, the more the other person will love you.

Your love is ultimately misplaced, and your humility ultimately harms you.

Instead of humbly loving others, it’s better to love yourself well.

When you become more confident and charismatic, you won’t have to worry about finding someone to love you.

It’s better to have people chasing after you than to humbly chase after others.

Treat your parents well, as only a parent’s love is unconditional

When we were young, our parents had to watch over us, fearing that we would get hurt or have an accident.

As we gradually grew up, our parents had to educate us to be good people and supervise our studies.

Only those who are parents know the hardships of being parents.

From the day we were born, our parents’ thoughts have been focused on us, making sure we have enough to eat and wear, and providing us with a good living and learning environment.

Even as we grow up, start our own lives, have families, and children, our parents still worry about us and care for us.

But as children, we can’t and shouldn’t repay our parents in the same way they have sacrificed for us.

We can only enjoy our parents’ love and even demand more from them.

The saying goes, “A son is anxious to support his parents, but the parents don’t wait.” Don’t wait until your parents are gone to think about repaying them.

After turning 30, you should take on more responsibilities, not just for your own children, but also for your parents.

By this time, your parents are no longer young and are more susceptible to loneliness.

At 30, you should understand the importance of treating your parents well. Remember, only a parent’s love is unconditional.

As long as there’s a dream in your heart, it’s never too late to start striving

Although they say to be independent at thirty, not everyone will have achieved something by the time they turn thirty.

Some people are late bloomers. In their youth, perhaps they lacked the ability, didn’t find their life direction, or failed many times, and ended up with nothing.

But life is never without setbacks. It’s not always smooth sailing; it’s not a cheat code.

You should know that there’s always a way out. Even if you haven’t achieved anything by the age of 30, it doesn’t mean your whole life will be like this, mediocre and unremarkable.

What people fear the most is losing their dreams, not having a plan for the future, and losing hope.

As long as there’s a dream in your heart, it’s possible to achieve it. As long as you’re willing to work hard, it’s never too late to start striving.

As long as you find your direction, set your goals, and work hard to reach them, there will come a day when you will shine and be grateful for the hard work and effort you’ve put in.

At 30, your life should mark a small dividing line, separating your immaturity from maturity.

Maturity doesn’t mean losing your innocence or your longing for life.

It means thinking more about your own life, not idling away, and striving for a better future.

Just yearning for a better future isn’t enough. You have to take steps, roll up your sleeves, and work hard for the future to be brighter.

Time waits for no one, whether it’s the person you love or yourself. Both should be taken seriously, and life should move towards a better direction.