A good friend wrote to me, saying:

“Pale words, fragile language… ultimately, it’s all empty. Many things in the world are hard to express, and we shouldn’t take everything at face value.”

People tend to like those who are good to them and those who often give them compliments. However, some promises may sound beautiful but are not necessarily true. We may know they’re fake, but we still want to deceive ourselves and give the other person multiple chances.

When someone cheats on you, you’ll also cheat on yourself, thinking that this will bring you good treatment and fairness. But often, reality contradicts our wishes.

If someone gives you promises but doesn’t keep them, their character is not normal. How can we expect them to be grateful to us in the future?

If someone often makes these three types of promises to you, please stay away from them; they’re not a true gentleman.

Breaking Your Trust After Giving You Promises

When the bride puts on her wedding dress, and the groom puts on his tie, they walk hand in hand, making promises to each other at the wedding.

They promise:

No matter what happens in the future, they’ll love each other, never leave, and never betray.

Perhaps, after hearing these words at the wedding, we feel more secure. However, language is fragile, and even written contracts can become worthless. What about a few fragile words?

In life, some people haven’t even entered the marriage hall with you, yet they’ve already betrayed you multiple times, hurting you.

When they betray you, they might say:

“Trust me, this is the last time, I swear, I promise!”

However, betrayal is either zero or countless. If a man betrays you, he’ll find another woman outside. If a woman betrays a man, her heart may no longer be with him.

In the TV series “Thirty but Not in Love,” the female lead’s husband betrayed her, and then begged for forgiveness. However, the female lead didn’t forgive her husband.

Perhaps, with time, the wounds will heal, and our hatred for that person will decrease. But initially, we can’t forgive the other person.

If someone often betrays you, gives you promises after betraying you, and doesn’t keep those promises, it’s clear that this person is not trustworthy and doesn’t have the character or perseverance. We shouldn’t waste our time on such people.

Promises That Only Benefit Them

In “Camellias,” it says:

“Human nature is not inherently selfish; it’s just that some people are given life but not taught how to love.”

Everyone likes beautiful things, just like in “Camellias.” Many people try to get close to Camellias, hoping to gain something from her.

Each man who wants to get close to Camellias will make promises to her. However, their principle is:

First, Camellias must give them something, like her body or companionship, and then they’ll promise her a good life.

Although they don’t say it out loud, their intention is clear.

Later, when Camellias fell seriously ill, none of those men came to visit her. In the end, Camellias died alone.

Some people are used to using their future good deeds to exchange for current benefits.

When someone gives you promises, they often have an ulterior motive.

In works of literature or in real life, whether in business or love, if someone gives you promises only after you’ve paid the price, be cautious.

Many friends have been hurt after believing someone’s promises and doing something they shouldn’t have. They ended up getting hurt and abandoned.

Smart people won’t easily agree to something without getting anything in return.

If someone wants you to pay a price, and the price is just a small favor, you can consider it. But if it’s a mistake or hurts you, be cautious.

In this era, don’t believe others too easily, because they can say things, and you can say things too.

Promises to Not Ask for Money Again

“Money can make the devil push the mill.”

Nowadays, money is extremely important. Everyone thinks that without money, they can’t move forward. You need money to take a taxi, eat a meal, or even drink water.

Money affects every aspect of our lives, so many people have deeply fallen in love with it.

When I was young, I had a neighbor who had a distant relative. This relative was lazy and didn’t work hard, so during the holidays, they would always ask my neighbor for money.

The first time they asked for money, my neighbor agreed. The second time, they promised it was the last time, but the third time, they came again, asking for more.

Later, my neighbor’s elderly uncle told the family to refuse this person’s requests, as giving them money would only harm them. This person was lazy and wouldn’t work hard, so we should let them learn to earn their own money.

If someone often asks you for things, promises not to ask again, but still comes back, stay away from them. Giving them things is harming both them and yourself.

In life, some promises are worth listening to, but don’t easily believe them, especially when someone repeatedly gives you promises but doesn’t keep them. This kind of person is often cunning.

We don’t ask for others’ favors, but we should protect ourselves from being hurt.