As the old saying goes, “Every family has its own difficulties.”

In reality, every family has its own set of problems. Apart from the relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, husband and wife, and children’s education, there are also issues between relatives.

If you encounter relatives who are reasonable, your relationships may be able to last long. However, if you encounter relatives who are unreasonable, your relationships will only get worse.

As the old saying goes, “The rich have distant relatives, while the poor have none in times of trouble.” This saying also reminds us of something important.

Between relatives, there are blood ties, but sometimes conflicts and contradictions are unavoidable. When conflicts arise, we need to learn to resolve them instead of blaming each other. However, with some relatives, it’s better to distance ourselves early on.

As we grow older, we become more indifferent to many things and gain new insights into life. When we face life, we will be more carefree. If there are obstacles in our relationships with relatives, we should learn to let go decisively and not maintain the relationship.

Emily is the youngest daughter in her family. She has two older brothers. Since she is the youngest, her parents loved her more when she was young.

As she grew older, her parents were worried about her being single and living alone. Her brothers were already married, and her parents were anxious about her marriage. They couldn’t find a suitable partner for her.

Her brothers had built houses in their hometown and lived there. Not long ago, their old house was demolished, and they received a compensation fee. Their parents decided to divide the fee equally among the three siblings.

However, this decision sparked dissatisfaction from her brothers, who thought Emily was already married and didn’t need so much money. They only needed to give her a small amount as a token of goodwill. But their mother disagreed, which led to a big argument between her brothers and mother.

Emily felt that her brothers’ attitude was unacceptable, and it made her very sad. She didn’t take the money and instead told her mother, “It’s okay, you can keep my share. Consider it as my way of showing filial piety.”

Her mother knew Emily was very sensible, so she didn’t say anything more. But from then on, Emily’s relationship with her brothers deteriorated.

Emily realized that people’s true nature is revealed when it comes to benefits. Even between relatives, emotions can be fragile and easily damaged. After that, Emily rarely went back home and only occasionally visited her parents. She also cut off ties with her brothers because she felt that such relationships were too fragile.

As Tolstoy once said, “Happy families are all alike; unhappy families are each unhappy in their own way.” As we grow older, we come to understand the profound meaning behind these words.

As the old saying goes, “Blood is thicker than water,” but sometimes relationships between relatives can be fragile. When conflicts arise, we need to learn to eliminate obstacles. However, when we encounter unreasonable relatives, we may realize that no matter how much effort we put in, it’s futile.

As we reach a certain age, we need to learn to let go and distance ourselves. Sometimes, in the process of communicating with relatives, we may encounter many selfish people. In reality, this is something we need to accept. When we reach middle age, if there are obstacles in our relationships with relatives, it’s better to cut off ties because it’s meaningless to continue.

The Pull of Money

As the old saying goes, “Money can test people’s hearts.” If relatives fight over money, it’s better to cut off ties because they prioritize their interests over relationships. Even if you treat them well, it’s futile.

The Burden of Supporting the Elderly

As the old saying goes, “Filial piety is the most important virtue.” Taking care of our parents is something we should do.

However, the burden of supporting the elderly can sometimes cause siblings to fight. Such relationships are meaningless to us.

The Education of Children

A family’s atmosphere is also very important. Everyone hopes their family can be happy and harmonious.

However, when it comes to educating the next generation, we each have different views.

The idea that “a woman without talent is virtuous” is no longer valid in today’s open era. If we encounter such relatives, it’s better to distance ourselves.

Between relatives, mutual respect and understanding are essential to make relationships better. If we fight over trivial matters, our relationships will be damaged. We should treat others with respect, but respect is mutual. If the other party is disrespectful, it’s not necessary to maintain the relationship. It’s better to cut off ties early on.