In fact, most of the time, when interacting with others, it’s all about mutual testing in the beginning. Whether you are making friends or aiming for a romantic relationship, it’s all about mutual testing at the beginning. Even if the other person arouses your curiosity and catches your eye, you still can’t help but want to test the waters.
The process of going from strangers to acquaintances involves continuous mutual testing. Research has found that when chatting, women who appropriately reject men happen to earn the respect of men.
Usually, when men and women interact, men tend to be more generous, inviting women to dinner, taking them out, and even giving them gifts. These behaviors are all to test the character and acceptance of the women.
Some women have a high level of acceptance. They accept whatever others give them and don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. “If you want to give it, I naturally accept it.”
But if a man sees a woman who doesn’t know how to refuse and accepts whatever is given, and goes wherever he asks, he will think that she’s not reserved. Being able to win your affection with just a little something will significantly decrease his fondness for you.
Therefore, when women interact with the opposite sex, they must have boundaries, stick to their principles, and not be swayed by small material things. Appropriately rejecting and saying “no” can earn his favor and keep you at a distance from some scummy men.
When a man invites you to go to a hotel, you should say “no.”
Many young people hang out together, and it’s inconvenient to go to anyone’s place, since they’re not familiar with each other. Some people suggest going to a hotel, as these places are for the use of their guests. Many men use all sorts of sweet talk to coax women, such as “It’s too hot outside, we can go in and rest for a while.”
Perhaps a group of people go to the hotel together, and at this point, many women let their guard down and follow along. At first, it might seem like a normal gathering with a group of people, but as night falls, many people may say they’re tired or make excuses to leave. At this point, it’s left with men and women alone in a room, and it’s easy to imagine what might happen.
No matter who you’re interacting with, women should be cautious and not go to unfamiliar and secluded places with men casually. If you encounter any danger in such a situation, you’ll be left helpless. Don’t casually leave with a stranger, especially when you’ve just met. Remember to reject his invitation.
After all, in an unfamiliar situation, you don’t know the motives behind a man’s invitation. For safety’s sake, it’s best not to easily accept a man’s invitation, regardless of whether you’re interested in him. Good love needs time to prove itself.
When a man gives you something, you should say “no.”
When an unfamiliar man gives you something, you should say “no” and reject what he’s giving you. Don’t casually accept it. Once you accept his gift, he will think that you like him or that you’re hinting at his next move. This also gives the man a chance to harm you.
Because for men, the faster they can win a woman over, the less effort they have to put in. Their goal is to achieve their purpose as quickly as possible. In the beginning, they will take you out to eat, give you gifts, and test whether you’re on guard against them. If you accept willingly, they’ll know they can move on to the next step.
So, when you don’t know a man and don’t know his true intentions toward you, you must not easily accept his gifts. Otherwise, it’s like setting a trap for yourself. Once you fall into it, it’s hard to get out, and you might even be callously abandoned by the other party.
When a man invites you to sit at his place, you must firmly say “no.”
When a man says that he’s passing by his place and invites you to come up and sit for a while, you must refuse. After all, you’re not familiar with each other, and entering someone else’s private space is not good. If you genuinely like each other, you can get to know each other more before going to his place. As a woman, you should not easily bring a man to your home either, as home is a private place and a person’s safe haven. You should not easily let others enter.
Especially for those men you’ve just met, you must not set this precedent for them. After all, you don’t know the other person’s character, and you’re not clear about his true motives for getting close to you. Some men get close to women only for money. If they see that your family is well-off when they visit your home, they might have a different agenda.
Sometimes, when a man gives you a gift and wants to go to your home, it might not necessarily mean that he’s interested in you. Therefore, for unfamiliar men you’ve just met, you must be cautious and not be deceived by them. Otherwise, you’ll be the one who gets hurt.
When women interact with men, they must understand more about the person’s family background. Many women are deceived by men’s glamorous appearance and sweet talk, unknowingly becoming the third party or being deceived for money or sex, which happens frequently.
Love is like a career, it won’t easily fall into your lap. No matter how much you yearn for a relationship, don’t easily take risks. Be cautious in all matters and don’t always expect good things to come your way.
Sometimes, the more eagerly you hope, the easier it is to be deceived. Therefore, keep a level head and don’t let the other party find your weaknesses. Don’t let them take advantage of your eagerness to harm you.